Finding balance is hard. Striving for self-improvement is hard. I bet I’m not the only person who has a hard time balancing work, personal growth, maintenance of mind, body, spirit, and surroundings, creativity, and resistance (or, put more positively, activism).
Shoulding on myself
So I end up telling myself:
- I should go to the gym (because I should get fit)
- I should get back to meditating (because I should be more spiritually in tune)
- I should clean out the fridge
- I should set more specific goals for each day.
- I should think more positively.
You can see why I call it “shoulding on myself.”
Forgetting what I know
I have an email account I don’t use much any more, and I had forgotten that it still receives emails from zen habits. Today I happened to open the email, and it was just what I needed to hear.Stop striving. You could try coming from appreciation and compassion. As in:
- I appreciate my body, so I take care of it by eating well and exercising.
- I appreciate life, so I go outside and be in nature instead of hanging out on my phone or at the computer.
- I appreciate the moment, so I meditate.
That certainly feels better than, “There’s so much I need to do, I don’t know what to do first.”
So, thank you, Leo. I encourage everyone to check out this post.